What happens when a daughter doesn’t get enough love and guidance from her father and, unsurprisingly, goes out into the world armed to protect herself? She wastes her energy chasing feelings she never experienced as a child, pursuing something like a father’s love.
I can’t help wondering whether fathers understand what they have done to their daughters, and society as a whole suffers when they don’t look after their children properly. Mothers have their own roles, but they simply cannot fill the void left by a missing father who has left his family behind.
There is, however, a crucial difference between the functions of mother and father. As with any other job, the primary responsibility of a parent is to show up and get the job done.
Scientists have found that there is evidence that the mother-daughter bond is actually stronger than the bond of the parents in childhood. Research has shown that daughters become their mothers and fathers to some extent, but in many other areas they are just as important as their parents.
The crucial importance of this particular partnership is simply undeniable, and the data support this position. It would be hard to overstate the powerful influence fathers have on shaping their daughters ability to shape the course of their own lives. In comparison, father-daughter relationships serve a very different, but very important purpose.
Research shows that fathers who play an active role in their daughters lives contribute immensely to their anxiety and depression, which in turn lowers their self-esteem and changes their lives. Moreover, studies have shown that loving fathers can influence their children to “give everything,” whether in the form of physical, emotional, or financial support. Furthermore, paternal presence can increase the likelihood that a child will not end up in poverty.
The father-daughter relationship has a unique purity that cannot be repeated in any other relationship in the world, even the most intimate.
This is why this link is also most sensitive to the needs of children, especially children with special needs, such as children with disabilities and the elderly.
Girls need to know what unconditional love feels like, especially in a society where we are constantly made to believe that love always comes at a price, that it should be painful, and that loving someone is an emotional slave. We must feel that this kind of love is boundless, not only in the sense of physical love, but also in the sense of emotional love.
This love exists naturally in all of us, not only in the form of physical love, but also in our hearts, minds and bodies.
A daughter who does not know the meaning of fatherly love does not make her stronger, and her own choices do not make us stronger. We must fight to learn the hard lessons of life that fathers do not prepare us for. Meanwhile, we are trying to prove that our absence has not hurt and that we have become quite good without him.
It is undeniable that society has put pressure on us to find ways to heal from what our parents have forced upon us, but that does not mean that men should automatically assume that their daughters can make ends meet without their help in life. Fathers should constantly remember that they could push their children into a life of misery and deprivation if they are not there. The option to leave fatherhood is a sign that the daughters are finding ways to recover from the damage.