Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who are willing to continue to invest in relationships through fraud. Unfortunately, there is no good woman in the real world, at least not in this world.
But times have changed, adultery is no longer a man’s domain, it is about as likely today as between man and woman. Nowadays, it is no longer possible to claim that only men cheat, but they cannot keep it in their pants, and now it is the norm.
A 2011 study published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior found that more than half of men (52.5%) than women (46.7%) admitted to cheating. However, the three main reasons for fraud, which are supported by both women and men, are the same: a lack of trust, lacklustre relationships and a sense of entitlement.
To gather information from women who had extramarital affairs, I interviewed them about their feelings of entitlement. I have found that many women have cheated because they have just made a change, given up or left their partner. If they had discussed their options with a man beforehand, which they had not done before marriage, they would have felt more comfortable fulfilling their sexual desires with another partner who was not their husband.
Although experts say there is no single size fit, they have found more reasons to be cautious. Many feel lonely and betrayed because they are ignored by their husbands, or they suffer because it always has a devastating effect on the primary relationship. Some men were like dogs, and many cheated because their husbands ignored them.
Very often this leads to common strategies to appease the partner and deceive him into feeling safe while at the same time looking for a new partner.
The pleasure is one thing, but with the ability to find a new partner comes a self-esteem boost. Some couples even report that their relationship is strengthened by the affair. For some reason, the fraudster initially doesn’t think about the long-term effects and then feels guilty and promises never to do it again. Fraud may not be necessary, and with it comes self-esteem.
However, everyone must know and listen to their inner leader, and not everyone is willing to give up their white vest for someone who has hurt him. If you muster the courage to lie and cheat every time you looked at your partner, it is an act of self-mutilation.
While some people may never regain the trust and emotional security they need to save their relationship, many others see it as a chance to weather the storm and become stronger than before.
You have chosen your partner, so respect that decision and try your best to save your relationship, but if that is impossible, at least move on with dignity and not hurt yourself. Try to remember the reason you started the relationship in the first place, start over and appreciate your partner again. Don’t give them up and, if you can, try counselling to help you overcome your relationship crisis. Some couples can try a combination of counselling, support groups and other forms of support to help them overcome their relationship crisis.
Never forget to appreciate your partner’s efforts in the relationship, because everyone craves attention and respect. Whether it is good or bad to have a loyal partner by your side is priceless and worth every penny.
Your relationship should be based on trust, love and respect, and if you succeed and someone comes after you, it is because of you.